Why does going DEEP make us so uncomfortable?
Just a thought that keeps stirring in my brain.
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I think people are afraid to go deep because it exposes weaknesses, flaws, insecurities, and other things of the sort about ourselves. We, as humans, like to think we’ve got everything together, that our lives have no problems. When we go deep, people begin to see their problems and they feel their perfect little world, whether it be real or imaginary, falling apart around them.
Ok Rick I’ll bite
what is you’re definition of deep.
one other thing definition of afraid.
I have friends who love to sky-dive, everyone says the first few times everything goes through your head (what if) I could die! But the more they do it, the less the (what if) factor comes into play
Trust God (what if) the more we trust God the less the fear of (what if).
Very easy equation to remedy
You and I know most fear is of something we don’t know what the final outcome will be.
Once we experience the outcome the more we enjoy the ride….
With Jesus packing the chuate it’s about the most fun you can have, till you land behind enemy lines,, then prayer is the compass we follow till our next JUMP
Just some thought
I couldn’t agree more. I’m the same way and still have area’s I can’t go. That’s good stuff Kyle.
you too Bryan.
Discomfort is telling us we’re not ready to be there or we’re breathing the wrong gas for that depth.
Depth reveals all of our cognitive dissonances. If we go too quickly, we become overwhelmed. Although depth is a meal full of nutrients, we don’t want to bite off more than we can chew.
The first step over a depth requires a faith that one can extend their limited perception beyond the depth and return whole on the other side. Connecting what you value to something unknown is always scary if you do not have faith in your ability to assess what you are about to witness.
Nietzsche has some interesting aphorisms on depth:
He who fights with monsters should be careful lest he thereby become a monster. And if thou gaze long into an abyss, the abyss will also gaze into thee.
Even the most courageous among us only rarely has the courage to face what he already knows.
I think people have a tendancy to worry about what others think way to much. How others perceive the tears we shed in His presence, the words spoken in an unknown tongue as deep calls unto deep, the absolute wonder that He really loves us that much. Could you give up your son or daughter?
Rick, keep going deeper, it is an encouragement to me to be able to read your thoughts as you become more and more transparent.
Right after I taped that God brought something to mind, an area where I am still very uncomfortable. I wanted to write a blog about it but Father’s Day is still too sensitive a topic for me to take on. That’s all you get because I don’t care to go any deeper…right now.
God, and my wife. I need to be clear. Often I hear his voice in hers.
Rick, your comments led me to think of what seems to be the real aspect at issue here. There is a difference between private depth, the kind you traverse yourself, and public depth, the kind you traverse with others. It often takes a lot of effort to prepare for dealing with a deep, private issue. To open it up to others may still take a bit of sweetness to offset the sourness of the issue even, and especially, if the issue hits home with others.
However, if someone is close to you, they ought to be able to deal with a bit of sourness for you. Perhaps people are surprised that some personal issues still remain when you finally have the time and resources to work on them? They are probably so used to you sacrificing your own needs for others that they figured that you must have had them all dealt with by now.
It is like the minister who, after so many shining years in his ministry, cannot hide his sins anymore. Was he not strong for others that whole time? Not necessarily. The railing on the storm-laden ship, though lacking in spirit, was the lifeblood of many. A well-traveled bridge needs repairs. German cars are expensive to maintain. One needs a lot to be a lot.
Oh this is my favorite video yet!
The funny thing is that it is socially acceptable to go deep as long as you quote song lyrics.
The funny thing is that it is socially acceptable to go deep as long as you quote song lyrics.
The funny thing is that it is socially acceptable to go deep as long as you quote song lyrics.