No Need To Prove I’m Right

I used to have this thirst to be right. I had this drive to make sure no one screwed me and would go to great lengths to state my case and make my point.

The trouble is no one really heard what I was trying to say. I see this same trait show up in other’s I know and I’m finally starting to understand why I don’t do it anymore and why it doesn’t work.

Oswald Chambers say “Our insistence in proving that we are right is nearly always an indication that there has been some point of disobedience.”

To be honest that one hasn’t quite sunk in all the way but I get the idea.

Perhaps from God’s standpoint it doesn’t really matter that I am defrauded but that I not defraud.

I understand some of you will come out punching on that one. We have this idea that God is out there fighting for us so people will be nice to us. I used to think that because that’s what I did for people. Now I understand that losing is often times winning. That being treated poorly brings more wisdom than having everything go my way.

I found myself awake last night praying for my boys. But I don’t do the fairytale prayers anymore. I am directly indirect with my prayers. I’m specifically unspecific because I don’t really know what they need.

I prayed as a boy that I’d never get cancer. My dad told me cancer was the worst thing that can happen to you. But I got cancer and it turns out it was one of the best gifts ever. God used cancer to give me freedom, wisdom and compassion in a way no one could have prayed it into existence.

So, stop trying to prove you are right because you don’t know anything anyway. Give it up and move on. Get that chip off your shoulder and you may discover being wrong and misunderstood is right and quite understandable.

1 Comment

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  Greg June 30, 2011 at 8:03 am

  The terrible truth about proving yourself to be right, in that moment, is: you may spend the rest of your life trying to prove you were wrong… something like that…