Lost Art

I was talking with some folks, about politics and had this sad realization. We as a culture really don’t know how to communicate. We talk at each other rather than really listening. We start a conversation, acting as though we want answers, but really we’ve already formed our judgment long before the questioned passed our lips.

What happened to the art of Communication? In it’s place we’ve gone to persuasive argument. We get into these conversations, and say we are looking for answers, but instead spend the whole time trying to convince the other person “we are right”. No wonder there is so much gridlock in Oregon.

I had some students yesterday, trying to convince one of my staff, that Rick Dancer is “Too Conservative”. Funny, coming from people who have never talked with me face to face. I had to smile. Many in my own party think I’m too liberal. So, which is it?

The best thing I’ve learned in politics is to find out what you believe, be flexible, but don’t worry what people say. The “Experts” only have as much credibility as you give them. One more thing, when you get into a conversation, if you really want to learn something, “Check” your motivation at the door. I used to tell kids, if you are thinking of the next thing you want to say, while the other person is talking, you aren’t listening.

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  Betsy October 30, 2008 at 10:27 am

  I like it Rick! One of my favorite quotes is from Dr Suess “Young Cat! If you keep your eyes [and ears!] open, oh the stuff you will learn, the most wonderful stuff!”

  Hang in there!